Guides
Good company in New York, explained plainly.
How adult friendship actually works, and what helps when the city feels big.
Making friends
How adult friendship actually starts, at every age and temperament.
- Your 30s6 min read
Making friends in your 30s in New York
Why friendships thin out in your thirties, and practical ways to meet people who fit the life you have now.
Read the guide - Introverts6 min read
How to make friends as an introvert in New York
New York rewards people who love a crowd. If you don’t, here is how to make friends at your own pace: smaller settings, structured plans and one person at a time.
Read the guide - First plans5 min read
How to ask someone to hang out (without it being awkward)
You met someone you like. Now what? How to suggest a first plan, what to actually say, and what to do if they say no.
Read the guide - 40s and 50s6 min read
Making friends in your 40s and 50s in New York
Children growing up, careers changing, old friends scattered: why midlife is a common time to need new friends, and what works when you do.
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Settling into the city
Building a social life after a move, in your neighborhood, or without an office.
- Settling in6 min read
Just moved to New York? How to build a social life
A calm plan for your first months in the city: where to start, how to avoid burning out on events, and how to turn acquaintances into friends.
Read the guide - Brooklyn6 min read
How to make friends in Brooklyn
Brooklyn is a borough of neighborhoods. How to use that to meet people: your block, your park, your library branch and the things that happen every week.
Read the guide - Remote work6 min read
Making friends when you work remotely in New York
No office means no colleagues to grab lunch with. How remote workers in New York can build the everyday contact that friendships grow from.
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Apps and meeting people
Ways to meet someone new, and how to keep it comfortable when you do.
- Safety5 min read
Meeting someone new from a friendship app: how to keep it safe and comfortable
Simple habits for a first meetup with someone you met online: before you go, while you are there, and afterwards.
Read the guide - Apps8 min read
Friendship apps in New York compared: Bumble BFF, Meetup, Timeleft and Simurgsu
Looking for a Bumble BFF alternative in New York? An honest comparison of the main ways to meet friends through an app: swiping, groups, dinners with strangers and one-to-one introductions.
Read the guide - Going out6 min read
Dinner with strangers in NYC: what it’s like and how to try it
Supper clubs, communal tables and apps that seat you with people you have never met. How dinners with strangers work in New York, and how to enjoy one.
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Holidays
When the city is festive and you are on your own.
- Holidays6 min read
Spending Thanksgiving alone in New York: how to make it a good day
On your own in the city for Thanksgiving? Ideas for the day itself, how to find or host a Friendsgiving, and how to feel less alone through the holidays.
Read the guide - Holidays6 min read
New Year’s Eve alone in New York: how to spend it well
On your own for New Year’s Eve in the city? Ideas from the quiet to the festive, how to find company at the last minute, and a word on Times Square.
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